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"If positive emotions are to occur in a close relationship, then one's
partner must have sufficient resources so that he or she can remove
interrupting stimuli or accelerate the completion of plans. However,
these acts of removal and acceleration must be unexpected if they are
to generate positive emotion. Furthermore, an individual must have
plans or dreams that he or she cannot complete alone so that a partner
can make a difference. This last condition is hard to meet in most
close relationships because each partner usually drops plans that
cannot be accomplished or accomplishes them by some other means. If
positive emotions are to occur at all, each person needs to keep
adding new plans that cannot be accomplished alone, but they also have
to be plans that the partner cannot predictably accomplish either.

The implications of these propositions about positive emotions for the
development of relationships is sobering. As the other person in the
relationship becomes more predictable, and as a partner expects that
person's help, there should be fewer occasions for positive emotion to
occur." -- Karl E. Weick, Sensemaking in Organizations, page 47